I just read a great article on earthjustice.org about the 11 wonders of honeybees (click the link at the bottom of this post to read it). We’re completely dependent upon them for our food and everything IS better with BEES!
Did you know that bees are the only insect who can tell their fellow bees where to collect the best food? They do a waggle dance where they move their midsections at a specific angle as it relates to the sun. Then they indicate how far along that angle the food is by the length of time they do their waggle dance! Amazing. Now I know where the term “busy bee” comes from!
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I just read a great article on earthjustice.org about the 11 wonders of honeybees (click the link at the bottom of this post to read it). We’re completely dependent upon them for our food and everything IS better with BEES!
Did you know that bees are the only insect who can tell their fellow bees where to collect the best food? They do a waggle dance where they move their midsections at a specific angle as it relates to the sun. Then they indicate how far along that angle the food is by the length of time they do their waggle dance! Amazing. Now I know where the term “busy bee” comes from!
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Not sure whether the SAT or ACT is better for your child? Join the club!
There are many factors to consider when comparing what test your child should take and it could take dozens of pages to describe them — and then you’ll really be thoroughly confused.
So, here are the general factors to consider:
Take the ACT if you:
- Can read fast and still understand the concept while zipping through 60 questions in 60 minutes
- Have taken trigonometry and understand harder math concepts (imaginary number, logarithms, and advanced geometry)
- Are great at managing your time under pressure and can plow through straight-forward questions
- Prefer to guess on questions because you aren’t penalized .25 a point for guessing
- Have a strong vocabulary and strong reading comprehension skills
- Haven’t taken trigonometry or precalculus but can solve tricky word problems
- Get flustered with short time allotments for multiple-choice questions and prefer fewer questions even if they’re intentionally confusing
- Are a strong problem solver and critical thinker
Let’s face it, there’s always room for improvement in any classroom, but when it’s your child in that classroom, you want things fixed NOW. We’ve all been there. But don’t go ballistic on the teacher. I know your mama bear instinct is to go straight to the teacher tell her what she’s doing wrong, but you’ll be alienating her and possibly ruining your kid’s experience in the classroom.
When your child comes home and tells you there was a problem in the class, listen intently, but don’t feed into his emotions. A friend of mine would pick up her 8-year old son after school and ask him, “So what did Miss “Meanie Face” do to you today?” Trying to please his mother’s voracious appetite for more stories about this teacher led her son to become so nosy about other students’ business that he fell behind on classwork because he was so focused on what Miss Meanie Face was doing and saying!
By listening to your child’s explanations you’ll hear how he felt about the situation. There is a big difference between how your child perceives a situation and what actually happened. Acknowledge his feelings and then ask objective questions. Try not to blame the teacher or other students – I know this is difficult to do when your child’s feelings have been hurt. Get the facts. Get the timeline. Get the names of the people involved. After you assess the situation, more often than not, you’ll find that there was no malicious intent – someone was just in the wrong place at the wrong time. In the future, don’t encourage your child to feed into this by asking more questions pointed at the target. Simply ask, “What interesting things happened at school today?”
But if the situation continues, consider one of the following solutions.
Find a Solution
Never go to the teacher to lay out the problem without having a viable, non-blaming solution on hand. That’s a sure-fire way to become the buzz in the Teacher’s Lounge! Being known as a Problem Parent will hurt both you and your child. Teachers are human, and remember, they’re underpaid, underappreciated, and overworked. So think about a solution to the problem. If students are distracting your son during class, suggest a seating rearrangement. If the students are confused about assignments, suggest using online programs like Infinite Campus or if your district can’t afford that, suggest the teacher use Google Calendar (free). Free is good! By offering solutions, the teacher will be more likely to address the issue and appreciate your recommendation.Get a Tutor
When teachers have between 20-40 students per class, it may simply be impossible for your child to get the extra attention he needs from the teacher. Even with volunteers aiding in the class, your child might need more help than they can give. Rather than stressing out because the school isn’t doing enough, hire a tutor to fill in the gaps. Ask your tutor to help with daily instruction and ensure that he is doing the work correctly. Then, they can review concepts taught at the start of the year to make sure that he didn’t miss any important building blocks – the foundation for future learning. Funds tight? Get a high school or college student to do it for community service credit!Take Trips
Sometimes, because government and religious organizations strip the interesting facts out of textbooks, your child’s history, literature, and even science courses can become kind of, well, dry. So supplement what your child is learning in the classroom with historically accurate movies and special museum exhibits. There are a ton of excellent movies that can make history come alive. Some of my children’s history favorites were “North and South“, “Centennial“, and “Shogun“. Have movie nights with other classmates/families and trust me, their interest in history will change! You can also center family vacations around visiting historical sites or museums. One summer, we went on a dinosaur tour of the 4-Corners in an RV with another family. While studying California history, we panned for gold in the Gold Rush hills of California. After writing papers on the Mayans, we travelled to Chichen Itza (Mexico) to explore ancient civilizations. And we even took a literary tour through England visiting homes of Jane Austen, Shakespeare, Bronte Sisters, and Charles Dickens. That certainly made reading English literature more engaging – my daughters quickly became voracious readers – and my youngest daughter even won a university reading contest while she was in high school! So if something is amiss in your child’s class, try to find a solution and be part of the process of fixing it.
17-year old Omar was a passenger in a devastating car accident about a month ago. He broke 20 bones from head to toe and lost about 7 pints of blood. Basically, he’s lucky to be alive. The amazing ER docs and ortho surgeons at Stanford performed what seems like miracles. Omar’s dad called me with the bad news and I planned to see him after he got out of the ICU. When I went to visit him, I was planning on picking up his spirits and give him some hope, but instead, he enlightened ME.
I was feeling pretty pessimistic before I even got in the building, though. As I circled the hospital and several parking lots searching for a parking space for 15 minutes, I was angry with the hospital administration for not providing enough parking spaces for visitors. With each passing minute, I got madder and madder. Then, after FINALLY parking, just walking down the halls (that all looked the same) to find Omar’s room, I was frustrated that the nursing staff couldn’t find him and pointed me in the wrong direction several times. By the time I found Omar, I only had 5 minutes left before I needed to leave, and I was very annoyed.
What I saw when I walked into his room stopped me in my tracks, and all of my frustrations and annoyance evaporated, forgotten. I don’t know what I expected to find – I KNEW he was in a terrible car accident. I KNEW that a nurse at the first hospital (before Stanford) almost paralyzed him by moving his broken neck. Still, I wasn’t prepared. I saw my little Omar’s head encased in a metal frame (halo) – he couldn’t turn to see me as I walked in.
I wanted to hug him but he was in casts and cages. When I looked into his eyes and saw his sparkly personality beaming out at me, I noticed that the 2 screws that held his head in place were actually screwed INTO HIS SKULL. I almost lost it. I couldn’t take my eyes off the screws. I’m the kind of person who can’t watch movies or TV shows that have violence, blood and guts, or even just mild suspense. I fast forward through violent or scary scenes. When I have blood drawn, I need to lie down and stare straight up so I don’t see any needles or tubes of blood. So there I am, Omar’s college advisor, the one who was supposed to inspire him and tell him everything is going to be okay.
What happened next surprised me. Before I could say anything, Omar asked me how I was. He’d broken pretty much everything in his body there was to break and can’t go back to school for the rest of the year, and he asks how *I* am? Then he told me that he didn’t remember anything about the accident (a good thing!) and how grateful he was to have such a loving father who paid out of pocket to transport him to Stanford – a better hospital that he feels saved his life.
Never once did he blame the driver of the car or the nurse who almost paralyzed him. He wasn’t even upset that he was going to miss all of the senior highlights and graduation. Instead, he told me that his high school is allowing him to graduate and that he hopes to visit the school to see his friends later this semester. He glowed as he told me that he got into his first choice college and was still considering his second choice and other prestigious colleges. He told me what he learned from friends about exciting developments in computer science (his future major) and what he plans to develop in the future. He may have been physically broken, but he was intellectually and emotionally whole.
I was so taken by his genuine humbleness and positive outlook on life. Just 15 minutes before, I’d almost blown a gasket over PARKING. It took a 17-year old near-death survivor to remind me to reevaluate my priorities and look for the positive aspects in life. On the drive back, I thought about everything he said during our visit and I realized that he had ALWAYS looked at the bright side. The accident hadn’t taken that away from him. What a remarkable kid. I know he is going to fully recover and he’ll be an inspiration to others – just by being himself.
Now that you’ve heard from all of the colleges that you’ve applied to, take a deep, relaxing breath. Feels good, right? Well, you’ve still got some work to do – now you need to choose the college you’ll attend in the fall — by May 1st. This is your final stretch to making that ultimate decision: where you will live and go to college for the next 4 years. For some, it’s a no brainer — you’ve been accepted to your #1 college and you’ve probably already sent in your deposit. Gold star for you! For others, you’re stressing out about making this big decision. And you’re definitely not alone. But here’s some advice to make that decision easier: first and foremost, don’t make decisions based on the name brand. So many students — and parents! — choose colleges based on prestige or legacies and later regret it. Don’t make that mistake!
- Majors/Programs
The single most important factor, arguably, is the major. Make sure your chosen college has the major or possible majors that you’re considering. Here’s why: One of my students was planning to major in business marketing and was accepted to UC Santa Barbara. She came to me to help her organize her four-year college plan for marketing. BUT, UCSB doesn’t offer a business marketing degree! Save yourself headaches and heartaches! Go online to compare your major at your top 3 colleges. Choose the college that has the best programs and opportunities within your intended majors.
- Costs/Financial Aid
Now that a college degree can cost more than $200,000, many families are choosing colleges based on financial aid. Public colleges are strapped for funds and offer very little by way of “free money”. Private colleges have more money thanks to big endowments, so their tuition costs to you may be comparable to a public college after considering their grants and scholarships. Carefully review your financial aid reports to determine your absolute bottom line costs. THEY CAN BE TRICKY! Call the financial aid department to get clarity on confusing reports. And most importantly, make sure that the financial aid they offer will be guaranteed for all 4 years! One student I work with received a handsome package for her freshman year but they rolled back their scholarships for the following year. Don’t get caught during your sophomore or junior year trying to negotiate financial aid. You’ll have less leverage and nowhere to go!
- Extracurriculars/Opportunities
When comparing your colleges, consider what opportunities they offer students in your major. Some colleges set up internships or study abroad programs specifically for your major. Choose a college with professors who engage with students outside of class and encourage them to get involved in their research. Make sure your college helps you move forward to higher education or guides you as you enter the work force. Some colleges actually set up interviews and even pay for flights and hotels! Learn more about your college BEFORE you hit the submit button!
- Social Life/Location
If you have the opportunity to visit the college before May 1st, do it! Check out their classes, dining halls, sports facilities, and dorms. Stay overnight to get a feel for the dynamics of the college to make sure it’s a good fit. If you don’t like the Greek system (fraternities and sororities), check to see how prevalent they are on campus before making your decision. If you’re hoping to make great connections through internships and networking while in college, you don’t want to be tucked away in a rural farming community (unless your network needs farming contacts, of course). Think about where your future jobs will be and choose a college that is closer to the connections you hope to make!
So here’s the bottom line: don’t choose a college just because of its prestigious reputation or because it’s your mom’s alma mater. Choose your future college because it is going to give you the most opportunities in your future career, offers the best financial aid package, and is located where you need to be to succeed!
Public schools require students to take over 100 standardized tests between preschool and 12th grade. When you consider the time students spend preparing for these tests (teachers and administrators need these scores to be high) and the actual days that it takes to administer them, how many days do the students get to actually engage in the material they are supposed to be learning? HMMMM.
Most American schools only have 180 days of instruction per year. That doesn’t leave many days left for teaching! With the Common Core curriculum, even more testing is required. No wonder students don’t have comprehensive knowledge in each subject area before they move on to the next class. They’re spending too much time taking (and learning how to take) standardized tests!
As a result of this, kids across the U.S. are starting to opt out of standardized tests.
Seriously, you don’t need to be a cabinetmaker to build a murphy bed. I bought the hardware kit from Lee Valley in Maine after getting a referral from a friend. When I received the boxes in the mail, I found everything I needed to build the mechanical part of the bed laid out in neat packaging, 2 packets of instructions, and a DVD. At first, it was a little daunting to see 2 instructional booklets, but then I watched the DVD from START to FINISH so I understood conceptually how it was going to come together. I’m a visual and kinesthetic learner so it made sense to me and this was a LIFE SAVER!
Lee Valley makes it easy to determine how much wood you need. I laid out a cut sheet to make the best use of each sheet of plywood because that was going to be the biggest cost factor. They actually tell you the exact measurements for each cut of wood. This is great as long as you don’t change the plans, which of course, I did. I wanted to add 5 horizontal shelves that go directly above the headboard inside the murphy bed frame, not additional shelves outside – outside would have been much easier. So I had to add 6″ to the depth of the entire bed and all of the pieces that were affected by this change. Needless to say, I was a regular at the lumberyard as I was down there every day for 5 days getting things cut and (yup) re-cut. But it was worth all the headaches because the shelves are the best part of the beds — and none of the custom designs had them!
What lumberyards cut your wood?
Forget big box stores because they’ll only cut your wood to rough measurements — and you want your cuts to be within a 1/16″. That means you’ll need cabinet cuts with a good carbide-tipped blade that most good independent lumberyards will provide for you. They charge about a dollar a cut, which is really great for me because I don’t have a table saw and they’re much better at precision cuts than I am. The best part about being at the lumber yard was that I got great advice from EVERYONE. They’re all skilled and experienced so when I showed them my drawings, they were intrigued and offered great recommendations. One guy even built a mock-up to show me how to install the really unique hinges in the kit:
They helped me pick drill bits to cut the holes for the mechanisms, and even told me where to buy some items cheaper at other stores! When I got back from the lumberyard, I just laid out the pieces and put them together with a screw gun and my friend the nail gun.
It seemed like it took more time to iron on the veneer than it did to assemble the whole bed. After the veneer was placed on all the plywood edges, screwing the pieces together was easy to do. I did all of this in my garage, and then carried the pieces up to the bedrooms. In the bedrooms, I attached the piston mechanism per the instructions, which was surprisingly simple to do. Once they were in place, we pushed the murphy bed against the wall and anchored it to a stud.
Next, I placed an old mattress on the bed and added a memory-foam topper for comfort. With the topper, it doesn’t matter what shape the mattress is in — everything is so soft! YOU NEED THE WEIGHT OF THE MATTRESS for the pistons to work effectively. Like a child in awe, I was mesmerized by the smoothness and ease that the mattress lowered to the floor. It was like magic!
Even though I was exhausted after assembling the beds, I placed every knick knack on the shelves and lay in the bed admiring them. I can’t wait for the girls to come home to see their individual murphy beds with all of their mementos. And now I can close up the murphy bed and start my art projects!
Moral of the story: If you’re an empty nester, build a murphy bed in your extra room!
Send photos and let me know how it goes in the comments!
Let’s face it – nobody likes Parent-Teacher Conferences. No matter how perfect your child is, you still feel like you’re in trouble as you sit on the little chairs in hallway waiting for your turn to see The Teacher. You’re at her mercy! Although you want to know how your precious is doing academically and socially, her pearls of wisdom may not be exactly what you are expecting to hear. So how can you make the best of it?
BE PREPARED!
Some teachers will send home a questionnaire for you to complete so they understand your child’s family and extracurricular activities. I know this may seem like more work, but take the time to give as much information as you can. If you’re worried that Joey doesn’t write down all of his homework assignments or that he is having trouble understanding concepts in science, describe the circumstances. Teachers want to help and if you give them enough information, they’ll offer good advice. But be careful to word your concerns so the teacher doesn’t feel like you’re blaming or attacking her. Many teachers deal with verbally abusive parents (parents aren’t the only ones stressed out about Parent-Teacher Conferences!). You don’t want to be one of those parents!
My advice: Take cookies!
If the teacher doesn’t send home a questionnaire, fill out this form. Either way, make a copy for yourself and file it. Then send it in with your child at least a day before your scheduled conference to give the teacher time to read it. This way, your meeting will be more productive!
If you’re an empty nester like I am, you probably have a few extra bedrooms that are in that in-between stage of still being your child’s old bedroom (yup, I’m that sentimental mom!) and your future sewing room or art studio that you’ve dreamed about for years. Well, I’m embarrassed because my eldest daughter moved out in 2003 (over a DECADE ago) and my youngest in 2007! Just think about how much rent I could have collected over those years!
I don’t know why but I just couldn’t throw out their favorite dolls and art projects that they treasured as kids, even though they claim that they don’t have space for it in their apartments. How did this become my problem? Nevermind, it’s up to me to solve it!
I started reading up on murphy beds and hatched a plan to convert their old time-capsule bedrooms into functional rooms for sewing and art projects. But then I learned that the prices START at $2,000 and go up as high as $4,000 (and I needed 2!), and I knew I couldn’t afford to buy them. And besides…I couldn’t find EXACTLY what I wanted. I’m picky! If I couldn’t buy them, I’d MAKE them!
I do my best thinking in the middle of the night, so I got out of bed one night to draw up plans to build murphy beds. My biggest problem was that I wanted to save their things but I didn’t want the room to look like a memorial to them. How could I display their stuff yet have the space and ambiance to inspire the inner Picasso in me?
Late nights are great for this kind of brainstorming, so I thought SHELVES. Why not put shelves over the bed to hold all of their stuff? That way, when the bed is closed, the shelves are hidden. Problem solved! I could put all of my girls’ knick knacks on those shelves so when they come home to visit, they could see all of their treasures and sleep in a bed all nestled in their awesomeness! And when they leave, I could close up the bed and have a white board and creative space available in my art studio and sewing room to create the next amazing project. The best of both worlds!
Believe it or not, building a murphy bed is actually really easy…and I’ll tell you exactly how I did it next week! With photos!
We don’t let our kids get away with lack of responsibility, so why are we letting Big Oil? Make them pay to fix their mistakes!
In an article in the Santa Cruz Sentinel, Joe Jordan talks about a new approach to reducing carbon emissions. This is a revenue-neutral, market-based system that is already up and running in British Columbia, and working well.
I love this solution for climate change (global warming)! It’s simple, easily understood, and fair. If a child intentionally destroys his brother’s smart phone, wouldn’t a good parent make the child replace the phone? Natural and logical consequences. Period. So why not make the world’s carbon polluters responsible for repairing the damage they have intentionally caused?