Stealthing IS Sexual Assault – Call Them Out!

STEALTHING is sexual assault, and it is unconscionable! What kind of perverted and selfish person would remove a condom during sex without consent (or awareness) from the woman?  Reporters and legislators are discussing how to prove that removing or purposefully tearing a condom was done and whether or not the act is illegal because it occurs during consensual sex.  I believe the best way to stop stealthing now is to shame the man.

Yup!  Remember what happens every time a prostitution ring is busted and the madame or pimp threatens to make public their “blacklist” of prominent men who frequented their prostitutes?  That fear of public shame is a more powerful deterrent than criminal prosecution. 

Men who stealth would have a short list of dates if everyone knew about their unethical practices. So why make women wait until the government spends months, or years, trying to label the act, define it, and then decide whether or not it is actually illegal?  Women could put an end to it immediately by simply posting who “stealthed” on social media and telling everyone they know.  Right? 

After all, the sex was consensual so the man and woman knew each other.  They probably hang out with the same friends and acquaintances; their sexual activity was probably not secret.  So when women don’t come forward, they are actually condoning stealthing AND they are putting other women at risk. This infuriates me.

Removing a condom puts the woman at risk of unwanted pregnancies, STDs, and emotional distress.  It’s a violation of the woman’s body and it’s a betrayal of trust and respect.  This has to stop now and women need to come forward to call out stealthers.  When women expose men for stealthing, we need to embrace them because they are the real victims here.